On the last night of our holiday, we went to a private party for women and non-binary people. Our invitation instructed … More
Tag: personal
Enid: Review, offthetongue strap on harnesses
Like many femmes, I’ve often struggled with strap-ons. I think Cadi and I bought our first one when we were … More
Enid: Massage, and the power of touch and connection
A couple of months ago I did an intensive Swedish massage course. It was really hard work. I was aching … More
Enid: Better Bondage for Every Body by Evie Vane
We were in Berlin a couple of weeks ago (Cadi is working on some posts about the kinky events we … More
Enid: Service submission, language and learning
There’s a lot written about service submission in power exchange relationships, such as this really informative primer by Tilari, and … More
Enid: Summer’s almost over, let cosy evenings in begin!
I’ve had a really good summer, but I’ve felt like I’ve been on a treadmill! I’ve had a lot of … More
Cadi: Reminiscing: Humiliation Play
I’m away with work, and will be for the rest of the week. It’s a job I do regularly and … More
Enid: Eczema, sex and me.
CN: Brief mention of sexual violence. Since 2012 I’ve suffered with severe pompholyx eczema. It’s a more uncommon type of … More
Enid: Kisses by Kim Addonizio
When thinking of romantic poems, Kisses by Kim Addonizio really sticks in my head. The image of the, “pale fish … More
Enid: Subject To Change (trans poetry and conversation)
This is a brilliant anthology from Sibling Rivalry Press. I love the format; each poet gets space for five or six … More
Enid: Fingers, by tatiana de la tierra
Para las duras: Una fenomonologia lesbiana / For the Hard Ones: A Lesbian Phenomenology was a lucky holiday bookshop find, from … More
Enid: My first tattoo!
Today I got my first tattoo! I have a high pain threshold but a real fear of needles, so I … More
Enid: Toy review, leather flogger from Mr B’s, Berlin.
Cadi and I have a holiday tradition of buying a new favourite toy every time we go abroad, starting with … More
Enid: A general update, some things are tough.
Recently body dysmorphia and disordered eating habits are kicking my arse. There have been a couple of triggers over the … More
Enid: You are warm by Anna Swir
Fat Like The Sun was a lucky thrift shop find. The collection touches on sex, love, parenthood, domestic violence, womanhood … More
Enid: A true story about the really hot guy we met in Berlin
There’s a boy I know, he’s the one I dream of, looks into my eyes, takes me to the clouds … More
Enid: Toy review, heart shaped paddle and matching cuffs from Sh! Women’s Erotic Emporium, London.
Sh! is legendary in the UK, particularly with feminists, kinky people, women, and non binary people. It’s an independent, women-led … More
Enid: Breasts like Martinis by Jill McDonough
Last year when I was going through a manic period I wrote a 120k novel manuscript set in Boston and … More
Enid: My birthday trip to a dungeon bed and breakfast
This is so late! But I really wanted to post about the amazing trip that my Mistress took me on … More
Happy Mother’s Day, Cadi! (An Exploration in Mommy Kink.)
So today is Mothering Sunday in the UK, and it seemed like a convenient time to talk about our recent … More
Enid: Psoriasis by Sarah Maguire.
I read (and have written) quite a lot of erotica and something that often works for me is a snippet … More
Cadi – A week of maintenance spankings and fighting the kinky-holiday blues.
Last week was a long one. Enid was busy at work, including a trip away to a training conference, and … More
Enid: My experiences with watersports, and piss swallowing
I grew up in a small town and, as a young girl, my mum and I used to take a … More
Enid: [even if you fuck me all vanilla in] by Richard Scott
I picked up Soho by Richard Scott at Gay’s The Word bookshop in London, and fell in love immediately. I … More
Enid: Using pilates to improve my BDSM practice.
My workplace has recently started offering subsidized Pilates lessons. I was really excited about getting involved because I have always … More
Enid: I’m so excited for my birthday trip to a BDSM bed & breakfast!
For my 30th I asked Cadi for a trip away. We’re usually city break people so I was expecting … More
Enid: Toy review, heavy duty spanking loop by The Kink Emporium.
This toy is made by UK-based, independent company The Kink Emporium. I fell in love with it at the London Alternative … More
Enid: Warming Her Pearls by Carol Ann Duffy.
Everything about this poem is sensual and erotic. I’ve always wanted to be in service to a beautiful femme, and … More
Enid: My first collar
I was born in 1989. I was part of the lucky generation that was able to enjoy relatively inexpensive, private internet … More
Cadi: Ribena-gate
We spent Christmas week spreading ourselves pretty thinly between our two loving, but intense families. Although we spent a lot … More
Enid: Sexy Saturday!
I’m currently writing this from a desk at Cadi’s office. It’s Sunday and she’s had to come into work, so … More
Cadi: Her First Collar
We’d been talking about collars and leads for a long time before we got them. I’m not sure what it … More
Enid: Toy review, “Thumper” from Purple Passion/DV8 in NYC
This lovely lady is a present that Cadi and I bought ourselves when we were on honeymoon in New York … More
Cadi: London Alternative Market – 6/1/19
This weekend we were in London visiting some friends that we didn’t manage to see over Christmas. We realised that … More
Enid: This is not a sex toy
It’s a very (very) long wooden spoon, bought for me by my mother on a trip to South Africa. I’ve … More
Enid: Improving rope skills and enjoying progress over perfection.
My mistress and I have been practicing rope bondage since approximately 2007, when we were both 19. I can’t remember … More
Enid: Service submission & boot polishing
Just before Christmas, my Domme took me to see some gorgeous festive lights in a national park. The whole day … More
Enid: An alternative advent calendar
Lots of companies seemed to be offering really good deals on sex toy advent calendars this Christmas! My Domme and … More
Enid: BDSM at Christmas time.
Christmas is rapidly approaching, and I’m not quite sure that I’m ready for it! My Domme and I are from … More
