A couple of months ago I did an intensive Swedish massage course. It was really hard work. I was aching … More
Category: personal
Enid: Better Bondage for Every Body by Evie Vane
We were in Berlin a couple of weeks ago (Cadi is working on some posts about the kinky events we … More
Enid: Service submission, language and learning
There’s a lot written about service submission in power exchange relationships, such as this really informative primer by Tilari, and … More
Enid: Summer’s almost over, let cosy evenings in begin!
I’ve had a really good summer, but I’ve felt like I’ve been on a treadmill! I’ve had a lot of … More
Enid: A very lucky girl
After writing about my Pride harness, I wanted to highlight how fucking good Cadi’s looked this Pride season. My favourite … More
Cadi: Reminiscing: Humiliation Play
I’m away with work, and will be for the rest of the week. It’s a job I do regularly and … More
Enid: Pride, and wearing rope in public
Pride month may be over in the US, but in the UK it’s barely started. I recently went to a … More
Cadi: Sex worker role-play
During the same car journey that Enid told me that she wanted to try watersports, she also told me that … More
Enid: Eczema, sex and me.
CN: Brief mention of sexual violence. Since 2012 I’ve suffered with severe pompholyx eczema. It’s a more uncommon type of … More
Enid: Kisses by Kim Addonizio
When thinking of romantic poems, Kisses by Kim Addonizio really sticks in my head. The image of the, “pale fish … More
Enid: Subject To Change (trans poetry and conversation)
This is a brilliant anthology from Sibling Rivalry Press. I love the format; each poet gets space for five or six … More
Enid: Fingers, by tatiana de la tierra
Para las duras: Una fenomonologia lesbiana / For the Hard Ones: A Lesbian Phenomenology was a lucky holiday bookshop find, from … More
Enid: My first tattoo!
Today I got my first tattoo! I have a high pain threshold but a real fear of needles, so I … More
Enid: Toy review, leather flogger from Mr B’s, Berlin.
Cadi and I have a holiday tradition of buying a new favourite toy every time we go abroad, starting with … More
Enid: A general update, some things are tough.
Recently body dysmorphia and disordered eating habits are kicking my arse. There have been a couple of triggers over the … More
Enid: You are warm by Anna Swir
Fat Like The Sun was a lucky thrift shop find. The collection touches on sex, love, parenthood, domestic violence, womanhood … More
Enid: Toy review, lotus stick by Trussed UK
Like our heavy duty spanking loop from The Kink Emporium, I picked this little baby up at the London Alternative … More
Enid: A true story about the really hot guy we met in Berlin
There’s a boy I know, he’s the one I dream of, looks into my eyes, takes me to the clouds … More
Enid: Toy review, heart shaped paddle and matching cuffs from Sh! Women’s Erotic Emporium, London.
Sh! is legendary in the UK, particularly with feminists, kinky people, women, and non binary people. It’s an independent, women-led … More
Enid: Breasts like Martinis by Jill McDonough
Last year when I was going through a manic period I wrote a 120k novel manuscript set in Boston and … More
Enid: My birthday trip to a dungeon bed and breakfast
This is so late! But I really wanted to post about the amazing trip that my Mistress took me on … More
Enid: Leather polishing homework for Cadi
Yesterday I was a bit miserable because I’m having ankle ligament trouble, and I was looking for something to do. … More
Happy Mother’s Day, Cadi! (An Exploration in Mommy Kink.)
So today is Mothering Sunday in the UK, and it seemed like a convenient time to talk about our recent … More
Enid: Psoriasis by Sarah Maguire.
I read (and have written) quite a lot of erotica and something that often works for me is a snippet … More
Cadi – A week of maintenance spankings and fighting the kinky-holiday blues.
Last week was a long one. Enid was busy at work, including a trip away to a training conference, and … More
Enid: My experiences with watersports, and piss swallowing
I grew up in a small town and, as a young girl, my mum and I used to take a … More
Enid: [even if you fuck me all vanilla in] by Richard Scott
I picked up Soho by Richard Scott at Gay’s The Word bookshop in London, and fell in love immediately. I … More
Enid: Using pilates to improve my BDSM practice.
My workplace has recently started offering subsidized Pilates lessons. I was really excited about getting involved because I have always … More
Enid: I’m so excited for my birthday trip to a BDSM bed & breakfast!
For my 30th I asked Cadi for a trip away. We’re usually city break people so I was expecting … More
Enid: Toy review, heavy duty spanking loop by The Kink Emporium.
This toy is made by UK-based, independent company The Kink Emporium. I fell in love with it at the London Alternative … More
Enid: Warming Her Pearls by Carol Ann Duffy.
Everything about this poem is sensual and erotic. I’ve always wanted to be in service to a beautiful femme, and … More
Enid: My first collar
I was born in 1989. I was part of the lucky generation that was able to enjoy relatively inexpensive, private internet … More
Cadi: Ribena-gate
We spent Christmas week spreading ourselves pretty thinly between our two loving, but intense families. Although we spent a lot … More
Enid: Sexy Saturday!
I’m currently writing this from a desk at Cadi’s office. It’s Sunday and she’s had to come into work, so … More
Cadi: Her First Collar
We’d been talking about collars and leads for a long time before we got them. I’m not sure what it … More
