Firstly, how are you doing? Bit weird this, isn’t it!? We got back from Japan at the end of February, … More
Category: personal
Enid: A fun online rope challenge we’ve started, from FuocoFet’s instagram.
We have been following the Rope Bondage: Skills and Drills for The Apocalypse challenge posted on IGTV by FuocoFet. She … More
Enid: Lockdown in Blue
I’m not going to wank on about Coronavirus. There’s too much being said already; but I would like to stress … More
Enid: Hot dog sausages, a new ritual
As I’ve said in a few different blogs, I’m a good cook and I love cooking for Cadi as a … More
Enid: Hog ties & Migraines
This is a belated post, as straight after we had sex I had the worst migraine and sort of put … More
Cadi: Developing Protocol
I’m a big fan of Why Are People Into That? the queer and kinky podcast hosted by Tina Horn. Sometimes … More
Enid: The Bottoming Book & The Topping Book by Dossie Easton and Janet W. Hardy
These books were first published in 1994, and then revised in 2001. They’re widely considered to be classics, and for … More
Enid: Happy birthday to me!
It’s my birthday today! Time for my contrary, independent, idealistic Aquarian self to shine! I shamelessly love birthdays, about the … More
Enid: Collar making workshop
Today I went to my very first leather working course!! I was so excited! I’ve wanted to do it for … More
Enid: Our first local munch
So we’ve been to nightclubs, markets, play parties, workshops and lectures. However, we’ve never been to a munch! There’s lots … More
Enid: Is anyone else a giggler?
Yesterday I was due a spanking for being mischievous, running around and just generally being a bit naughty. Cadi was … More
Enid: 2019 in Review
As expected, Christmas with the family was quite difficult for me. I was so happy to get back to our … More
Enid: The softness of a Mama/girl relationship
The Mama/little girl element of our relationship is definitely a sexual thing. That is evident when she’s fucking me hard … More
Enid: Berlin holiday recap, the rope workshop.
Half-way through our holiday we went to a workshop on upper body rope ties for ‘womyn and queers.’ I found … More
Enid: Fat femmes are everything
(Enid) Berlin holiday recap; the cuddle party
Content warning: Brief mentions of historic sexual violence. So when we were planning our most recent trip to Berlin, I … More
Cadi: Berlin holiday recap, the private party for women and non binary people
On the last night of our holiday, we went to a private party for women and non-binary people. Our invitation instructed … More
Enid: Review, offthetongue strap on harnesses
Like many femmes, I’ve often struggled with strap-ons. I think Cadi and I bought our first one when we were … More
Enid: Massage, and the power of touch and connection
A couple of months ago I did an intensive Swedish massage course. It was really hard work. I was aching … More
Enid: Better Bondage for Every Body by Evie Vane
We were in Berlin a couple of weeks ago (Cadi is working on some posts about the kinky events we … More
Enid: Service submission, language and learning
There’s a lot written about service submission in power exchange relationships, such as this really informative primer by Tilari, and … More
Enid: Summer’s almost over, let cosy evenings in begin!
I’ve had a really good summer, but I’ve felt like I’ve been on a treadmill! I’ve had a lot of … More
Enid: A very lucky girl
After writing about my Pride harness, I wanted to highlight how fucking good Cadi’s looked this Pride season. My favourite … More
Cadi: Reminiscing: Humiliation Play
I’m away with work, and will be for the rest of the week. It’s a job I do regularly and … More
Enid: Pride, and wearing rope in public
Pride month may be over in the US, but in the UK it’s barely started. I recently went to a … More
Cadi: Sex worker role-play
During the same car journey that Enid told me that she wanted to try watersports, she also told me that … More
Enid: Eczema, sex and me.
CN: Brief mention of sexual violence. Since 2012 I’ve suffered with severe pompholyx eczema. It’s a more uncommon type of … More
Enid: Subject To Change (trans poetry and conversation)
This is a brilliant anthology from Sibling Rivalry Press. I love the format; each poet gets space for five or six … More
Enid: Fingers, by tatiana de la tierra
Para las duras: Una fenomonologia lesbiana / For the Hard Ones: A Lesbian Phenomenology was a lucky holiday bookshop find, from … More
Enid: Toy review, leather flogger from Mr B’s, Berlin.
Cadi and I have a holiday tradition of buying a new favourite toy every time we go abroad, starting with … More
Enid: Toy review, lotus stick by Trussed UK
Like our heavy duty spanking loop from The Kink Emporium, I picked this little baby up at the London Alternative … More
Enid: A true story about the really hot guy we met in Berlin
There’s a boy I know, he’s the one I dream of, looks into my eyes, takes me to the clouds … More
Enid: Toy review, heart shaped paddle and matching cuffs from Sh! Women’s Erotic Emporium, London.
Sh! is legendary in the UK, particularly with feminists, kinky people, women, and non binary people. It’s an independent, women-led … More
Enid: My birthday trip to a dungeon bed and breakfast
This is so late! But I really wanted to post about the amazing trip that my Mistress took me on … More
Enid: Leather polishing homework for Cadi
Yesterday I was a bit miserable because I’m having ankle ligament trouble, and I was looking for something to do. … More
Happy Mother’s Day, Cadi! (An Exploration in Mommy Kink.)
So today is Mothering Sunday in the UK, and it seemed like a convenient time to talk about our recent … More
Cadi – A week of maintenance spankings and fighting the kinky-holiday blues.
Last week was a long one. Enid was busy at work, including a trip away to a training conference, and … More
Enid: My experiences with watersports, and piss swallowing
I grew up in a small town and when I was young my mum and I used to take a … More
Enid: I’m so excited for my birthday trip to a BDSM bed & breakfast!
For my 30th I asked Cadi for a trip away. We’re usually city break people so I was expecting … More
Enid: Toy review, heavy duty spanking loop by The Kink Emporium.
This toy is made by UK-based, independent company The Kink Emporium. I fell in love with it at the London Alternative … More
Enid: My first collar
I was born in 1989. I was part of the lucky generation that was able to enjoy relatively inexpensive, private internet … More
Cadi: Ribena-gate
We spent Christmas week spreading ourselves pretty thinly between our two loving, but intense families. Although we spent a lot … More
Enid: Sexy Saturday!
I’m currently writing this from a desk at Cadi’s office. It’s Sunday and she’s had to come into work, so … More
Cadi: Her First Collar
We’d been talking about collars and leads for a long time before we got them. I’m not sure what it … More
