We are Enid and Cadi. We are a married couple in our early 30s. Enid is a lesbian and a submissive, and Cadi is a bisexual Domme. We’re both white and cis. We have been together for 13 years, and we’ve been exploring BDSM since our late teens.

Kink and our D/s dynamic are a big part of our lives, but we are unfortunately not open about that in ‘real life’. I (Enid) wanted to start blogging as a way of feeling seen, finding a community, and to record and celebrate what we do. We are mostly monogamous and have only started to play in public, and to attend munches and other kink events since ~2018. We’d love to do more of this, both at home and when we travel.

We are so thankful for all the other kinky lovers, writers, and craftspeople in our community, and to everyone who has come before us.


I am a beautiful, extroverted, fat femme! When I started reading about BDSM I aspired to be a collared service submissive and masochist. At the beginning of our relationship I asked Cadi if she would be willing to explore that and, luckily, she was keen! BDSM has been part of our relationship since then.

Sometimes I like to identify as a power bottom because I love taking a fist, riding a strap, and looking after my own pleasure.

Over the last couple of years, Cadi and I have been exploring a Mama/little girl dynamic, in addition to the above. I’ve love this, it feels both soft and comforting & really perverse and subversive.

I have some chronic health problems, and I’m a survivor of sexual violence and abuse. I want to ensure that voices like ours are heard, when often we’re erased by mainstream discourse around bodies, sex and relationships.


I am a caring and loving sadist. I am a small woman who works in a physical environment in a management position.

I want to share and develop my practice as a Domme, by journalling and connecting with others. I want to explore the role BDSM plays in our marriage, and how we can deepen the connection between us. I always want to read more about queer womens’ complex sexualities, so I am here to contribute to the conversation.

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