Enid: Perspectives on Healing and Personal Transformation Through BDSM (By Sara Elise & Daemonum X)

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I really enjoyed this stunning essay. Every sentence is precious, and every photograph is beautiful.

Daemonum X’s section is very insightful. I always appreciate the input of tops, sadists and dominants because it helps me see things from my partner’s perspective.

In particular, it’s this section that I feel the most affinity with:

“Queer sexuality, when it’s not completely erased, is policed and stifled. At its core, BDSM forces us to share our desires, to deeply negotiate those desires, to plan for how we want to engage with them, and even what happens after. For myself and many others who have had traumatic sexual histories, normalizing communication around desire and consent is incredibly healing.”

I also love the part where she writes about sculpting with rope, about helping submissives realise what they’re capable of, about trusting and being trusted.

However, it’s Sara Elise’s section that resonates with me the most. I’ve read it a few times now, and a different part of it strikes me every time. I’d like to print it and keep it in my pocket for when people ask me about BDSM.

“After a session where I’ve been painfully suspended in the air by rope, I feel capable and proud of my ability to flow and fly. After being paddled and made to count out loud each impact on my upper thighs, I feel stronger and more present in my body. After having needles pierce my skin to draw blood, I feel more desired and beautiful than I did before. When my muscles are sore and I have scars or bruises the next day, I feel whole and like my outsides finally match my insides; like I’ve taken off the unnecessary social masks and am instead wearing my “crazy brain” in the daylight for people to see.”

I’d urge anyone to read this as soon as they’re able to.

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