So Cadi and I have been on a bit of a hiatus from this blog. We haven’t written here since…
Enid: Thoughts on kinky power exchange in times of crisis.
Firstly, how are you doing? Bit weird this, isn’t it!? We got back from Japan at the end of February,…
Enid: A fun online rope challenge we’ve started, from FuocoFet’s instagram.
We have been following the Rope Bondage: Skills and Drills for The Apocalypse challenge posted on IGTV by FuocoFet. She…
Enid: Lockdown in Blue
I’m not going to wank on about Coronavirus. There’s too much being said already; but I would like to stress…
Enid: Hot dog sausages, a new ritual
As I’ve said in a few different blogs, I’m a good cook and I love cooking for Cadi as a…
Enid: Hog ties & Migraines
This is a belated post, as straight after we had sex I had the worst migraine and sort of put…
Cadi: Developing Protocol
I’m a big fan of Why Are People Into That? the queer and kinky podcast hosted by Tina Horn. Sometimes…
Enid: The Bottoming Book & The Topping Book by Dossie Easton and Janet W. Hardy
These books were first published in 1994, and then revised in 2001. They’re widely considered to be classics, and for…
Enid: Happy birthday to me!
It’s my birthday today! Time for my contrary, independent, idealistic Aquarian self to shine! I shamelessly love birthdays, about the…
Enid: Happy Valentine’s Day!
I love Valentine’s Day, I love taking the opportunity to be shamelessly goofy and in love. I’m so drawn to…
Enid: Collar making workshop
Today I went to my very first leather working course!! I was so excited! I’ve wanted to do it for…
Enid: Our first local munch
So we’ve been to nightclubs, markets, play parties, workshops and lectures. However, we’ve never been to a munch! There’s lots…
Enid: Is anyone else a giggler?
Yesterday I was due a spanking for being mischievous, running around and just generally being a bit naughty. Cadi was…
Enid: 2019 in Review
As expected, Christmas with the family was quite difficult for me. I was so happy to get back to our…
Merry Christmas from us! (or, from Cadi’s boobs…)
Thank you for reading our blog in 2019 🙂
Enid: The softness of a Mama/girl relationship
The Mama/little girl element of our relationship is definitely a sexual thing. That is evident when she’s fucking me hard…
Enid: Berlin holiday recap, the rope workshop.
Half-way through our holiday we went to a workshop on upper body rope ties for ‘womyn and queers.’ I found…
Enid: Fat femmes are everything
(Enid) Berlin holiday recap; the cuddle party
Content warning: Brief mentions of historic sexual violence. So when we were planning our most recent trip to Berlin, I…
Cadi: Berlin holiday recap, the private party for women and non binary people
On the last night of our holiday, we went to a private party for women and non-binary people. Our invitation instructed…
Thank you!
Our blog has been nominated for the Kinkly Top 100 Sex Blogging Superheroes of 2019 I’m so pleased! I started…
Enid: Review, offthetongue strap on harnesses
Like many femmes, I’ve often struggled with strap-ons. I think Cadi and I bought our first one when we were…
Enid: Massage, and the power of touch and connection
A couple of months ago I did an intensive Swedish massage course. It was really hard work. I was aching…
Enid: Better Bondage for Every Body by Evie Vane
We were in Berlin a couple of weeks ago (Cadi is working on some posts about the kinky events we…
Enid: Service submission, language and learning
There’s a lot written about service submission in power exchange relationships, such as this really informative primer by Tilari, and…
Enid: Summer’s almost over, let cosy evenings in begin!
I’ve had a really good summer, but I’ve felt like I’ve been on a treadmill! I’ve had a lot of…
Enid: A very lucky girl
After writing about my Pride harness, I wanted to highlight how fucking good Cadi’s looked this Pride season. My favourite…
Cadi: Reminiscing: Humiliation Play
I’m away with work, and will be for the rest of the week. It’s a job I do regularly and…
Enid: Pride, and wearing rope in public
Pride month may be over in the US, but in the UK it’s barely started. I recently went to a…
Cadi: Sex worker role-play
During the same car journey that Enid told me that she wanted to try watersports, she also told me that…
Enid: Eczema, sex and me.
CN: Brief mention of sexual violence. Since 2012 I’ve suffered with severe pompholyx eczema. It’s a more uncommon type of…
Enid: Subject To Change (trans poetry and conversation)
This is a brilliant anthology from Sibling Rivalry Press. I love the format; each poet gets space for five or six…
Enid: Fingers, by tatiana de la tierra
Para las duras: Una fenomonologia lesbiana / For the Hard Ones: A Lesbian Phenomenology was a lucky holiday bookshop find, from…
Enid: Toy review, leather flogger from Mr B’s, Berlin.
Cadi and I have a holiday tradition of buying a new favourite toy every time we go abroad, starting with…
Cadi: Sunday in the park with Babygirl
Enid has been asking to play tea party for a long time, and today we had Sunday afternoon off together,…
Enid: Toy review, lotus stick by Trussed UK
Like our heavy duty spanking loop from The Kink Emporium, I picked this little baby up at the London Alternative…
Enid: A true story about the really hot guy we met in Berlin
There’s a boy I know, he’s the one I dream of, looks into my eyes, takes me to the clouds…
Enid: Toy review, heart shaped paddle and matching cuffs from Sh! Women’s Erotic Emporium, London.
Sh! is legendary in the UK, particularly with feminists, kinky people, women, and non binary people. It’s an independent, women-led…
Enid: My birthday trip to a dungeon bed and breakfast
This is so late! But I really wanted to post about the amazing trip that my Mistress took me on…
Enid: Leather polishing homework for Cadi
Yesterday I was a bit miserable because I’m having ankle ligament trouble, and I was looking for something to do.…
Happy Mother’s Day, Cadi! (An Exploration in Mommy Kink.)
So today is Mothering Sunday in the UK, and it seemed like a convenient time to talk about our recent…
Cadi – A week of maintenance spankings and fighting the kinky-holiday blues.
Last week was a long one. Enid was busy at work, including a trip away to a training conference, and…
Enid: My experiences with watersports, and piss swallowing
I grew up in a small town and when I was young my mum and I used to take a…
Enid: I’m so excited for my birthday trip to a BDSM bed & breakfast!
For my 30th I asked Cadi for a trip away. We’re usually city break people so I was expecting…
Enid: Toy review, heavy duty spanking loop by The Kink Emporium.
This toy is made by UK-based, independent company The Kink Emporium. I fell in love with it at the London Alternative…
Enid: My first collar
I was born in 1989. I was part of the lucky generation that was able to enjoy relatively inexpensive, private internet…
Cadi: Ribena-gate
We spent Christmas week spreading ourselves pretty thinly between our two loving, but intense families. Although we spent a lot…
Enid: Sexy Saturday!
I’m currently writing this from a desk at Cadi’s office. It’s Sunday and she’s had to come into work, so…
Cadi: Her First Collar
We’d been talking about collars and leads for a long time before we got them. I’m not sure what it…
Enid: Toy review, “Thumper” from Purple Passion/DV8 in NYC
This lovely lady is a present that Cadi and I bought ourselves when we were on honeymoon in New York…
