On the last night of our holiday, we went to a private party for women and non-binary people. Our invitation instructed…
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Our blog has been nominated for the Kinkly Top 100 Sex Blogging Superheroes of 2019 I’m so pleased! I started…
Enid: Review, offthetongue strap on harnesses
Like many femmes, I’ve often struggled with strap-ons. I think Cadi and I bought our first one when we were…
Enid: Massage, and the power of touch and connection
A couple of months ago I did an intensive Swedish massage course. It was really hard work. I was aching…
Enid: Better Bondage for Every Body by Evie Vane
We were in Berlin a couple of weeks ago (Cadi is working on some posts about the kinky events we…
Enid: Service submission, language and learning
There’s a lot written about service submission in power exchange relationships, such as this really informative primer by Tilari, and…
Enid: Summer’s almost over, let cosy evenings in begin!
I’ve had a really good summer, but I’ve felt like I’ve been on a treadmill! I’ve had a lot of…
Enid: A very lucky girl
After writing about my Pride harness, I wanted to highlight how fucking good Cadi’s looked this Pride season. My favourite…
Cadi: Reminiscing: Humiliation Play
I’m away with work, and will be for the rest of the week. It’s a job I do regularly and…
Enid: Pride, and wearing rope in public
Pride month may be over in the US, but in the UK it’s barely started. I recently went to a…
Cadi: Sex worker role-play
During the same car journey that Enid told me that she wanted to try watersports, she also told me that…
Enid: Eczema, sex and me.
CN: Brief mention of sexual violence. Since 2012 I’ve suffered with severe pompholyx eczema. It’s a more uncommon type of…
Enid: Kisses by Kim Addonizio
When thinking of romantic poems, Kisses by Kim Addonizio really sticks in my head. The image of the, “pale fish…
Enid: Subject To Change (trans poetry and conversation)
This is a brilliant anthology from Sibling Rivalry Press. I love the format; each poet gets space for five or six…
Enid: Fingers, by tatiana de la tierra
Para las duras: Una fenomonologia lesbiana / For the Hard Ones: A Lesbian Phenomenology was a lucky holiday bookshop find, from…
Enid: My first tattoo!
Today I got my first tattoo! I have a high pain threshold but a real fear of needles, so I…
Enid: Toy review, leather flogger from Mr B’s, Berlin.
Cadi and I have a holiday tradition of buying a new favourite toy every time we go abroad, starting with…
Enid: A general update, some things are tough.
Recently body dysmorphia and disordered eating habits are kicking my arse. There have been a couple of triggers over the…
Enid: You are warm by Anna Swir
Fat Like The Sun was a lucky thrift shop find. The collection touches on sex, love, parenthood, domestic violence, womanhood…
Cadi: Sunday in the park with Babygirl
Enid has been asking to play tea party for a long time, and today we had Sunday afternoon off together,…
Enid: Toy review, lotus stick by Trussed UK
Like our heavy duty spanking loop from The Kink Emporium, I picked this little baby up at the London Alternative…
Enid: A true story about the really hot guy we met in Berlin
There’s a boy I know, he’s the one I dream of, looks into my eyes, takes me to the clouds…
Enid: Toy review, heart shaped paddle and matching cuffs from Sh! Women’s Erotic Emporium, London.
Sh! is legendary in the UK, particularly with feminists, kinky people, women, and non binary people. It’s an independent, women-led…
Enid: Breasts like Martinis by Jill McDonough
Last year when I was going through a manic period I wrote a 120k novel manuscript set in Boston and…
Enid: My birthday trip to a dungeon bed and breakfast
This is so late! But I really wanted to post about the amazing trip that my Mistress took me on…
Enid: Leather polishing homework for Cadi
Yesterday I was a bit miserable because I’m having ankle ligament trouble, and I was looking for something to do.…
Happy Mother’s Day, Cadi! (An Exploration in Mommy Kink.)
So today is Mothering Sunday in the UK, and it seemed like a convenient time to talk about our recent…
Enid: Psoriasis by Sarah Maguire.
I read (and have written) quite a lot of erotica and something that often works for me is a snippet…
Cadi – A week of maintenance spankings and fighting the kinky-holiday blues.
Last week was a long one. Enid was busy at work, including a trip away to a training conference, and…
Enid: My experiences with watersports, and piss swallowing
I grew up in a small town and, as a young girl, my mum and I used to take a…
Enid: [even if you fuck me all vanilla in] by Richard Scott
I picked up Soho by Richard Scott at Gay’s The Word bookshop in London, and fell in love immediately. I…
Enid: Using pilates to improve my BDSM practice.
My workplace has recently started offering subsidized Pilates lessons. I was really excited about getting involved because I have always…
Enid: I’m so excited for my birthday trip to a BDSM bed & breakfast!
For my 30th I asked Cadi for a trip away. We’re usually city break people so I was expecting…
Enid: Toy review, heavy duty spanking loop by The Kink Emporium.
This toy is made by UK-based, independent company The Kink Emporium. I fell in love with it at the London Alternative…
Enid: Warming Her Pearls by Carol Ann Duffy.
Everything about this poem is sensual and erotic. I’ve always wanted to be in service to a beautiful femme, and…
Enid: My first collar
I was born in 1989. I was part of the lucky generation that was able to enjoy relatively inexpensive, private internet…
Cadi: Ribena-gate
We spent Christmas week spreading ourselves pretty thinly between our two loving, but intense families. Although we spent a lot…
Enid: Sexy Saturday!
I’m currently writing this from a desk at Cadi’s office. It’s Sunday and she’s had to come into work, so…
Cadi: Her First Collar
We’d been talking about collars and leads for a long time before we got them. I’m not sure what it…
Enid: Toy review, “Thumper” from Purple Passion/DV8 in NYC
This lovely lady is a present that Cadi and I bought ourselves when we were on honeymoon in New York…
Cadi: London Alternative Market – 6/1/19
This weekend we were in London visiting some friends that we didn’t manage to see over Christmas. We realised that…
Enid: This is not a sex toy
It’s a very (very) long wooden spoon, bought for me by my mother on a trip to South Africa. I’ve…
Enid: Improving rope skills and enjoying progress over perfection.
My mistress and I have been practicing rope bondage since approximately 2007, when we were both 19. I can’t remember…
Enid: Service submission & boot polishing
Just before Christmas, my Domme took me to see some gorgeous festive lights in a national park. The whole day…
Enid: To me, love me
Last week a friend and I decided to go to a paint-your-own pottery place for a bit of a chat…
Enid: Perspectives on Healing and Personal Transformation Through BDSM (By Sara Elise & Daemonum X)
I really enjoyed this stunning essay. Every sentence is precious, and every photograph is beautiful. Daemonum X’s section is very…
Enid: An alternative advent calendar
Lots of companies seemed to be offering really good deals on sex toy advent calendars this Christmas! My Domme and…
Enid: Number One Laboratory
I follow a number of sex toy manufacturers on Insta, and today I spotted this geode crystal style dildo in…
Enid: BDSM at Christmas time.
Christmas is rapidly approaching, and I’m not quite sure that I’m ready for it! My Domme and I are from…
